7 Ways Guys Try to Act Aloof & Mysterious.

Ah, gotta love the writers at Yahoo. Sometimes I wonder why I'm not writing for them and jerks such as the guy who wrote this article are. Here is the article in question. (My thoughts in italics):

"How (and why) should I act like I don't care about someone that I'm interested in?

 I can understand the rationale. I'm attracted to women that are gloriously unavailable.

It is this aloofness that I strive to master. I can't seem to get the mix right: I'm either not aloof enough or (when I try to be aloof) I look uninterested.

In addition to creating "a chase," aloofness creates mystery. The person might wonder, just who is Rich Santos (even though it's clear I'm just a dumb guy who likes the Ravens, Ramen, and chicken tenders...and sleep).

My main weakness is my tendency to wear my heart on my sleeve and remain honest with my affection and intentions.

Here are some aloofness tactics I've tried: 

Sending Mixed Signals

One moment, I'll be affectionate, totally paying attention to you. The next minute, I'll be a little distant.

Sending mixed signals is a timeless tactic employed by both genders. Not only does it create a riddle for the other person to solve, but giving little tastes of good vibes, mixed with a confusing vibe intrigues people.

[Okay. I can understand this a little bit because I can't say I have NEVER done this. But honestly I'll only do it if it is done to me first. It's a "two can play that game" reasoning. But to be honest, purposefully sending mixed signals first is kind of annoying. I'm like...if I get the feeling that you're not into me I'll just move on. ]

The Classic Ignore

This one is quite immature and can be downright mean, but sometimes you just have to do it.

You don't have to be that obnoxious, but making the person long for your attention by makes it that much better for them when you actually give them that attention later on (once you've decided the punishment has gone long enough). [WHAT?! Once you've decided the PUNISHMENT of not being graced by your presence has gone long enough?! Like you're God's gift to women or something?!]

Walking in to a party and talking to everyone but her, not going right over to her right away, keeps her in check and makes it look like I've got a lot going on.

[It "keeps her in check"?! Well, hope I don't get out of line so I don't get punished later!]

Surrounding Myself with a Crowd

Holding court the middle of an impenetrable circle of cool, attractive people is intimidating, but effective. Your person of interest will want to be part of the circle. It's especially magnetic if you can keep the crowd laughing and nodding in agreement, like a politician on the campaign trail.

[Make sure you kiss alot of baby's foreheads too. That's a real turn-on!]

Putting Down Your Cool Things

Due to the fact that women like jerks, when I put down something she thinks is really cool, I have success.

I am always telling women how much I hate Lady Gaga when they trump her up, and I once told a girl she'd "never make it in New York," while she was bragging about her plans. A few weeks later, we were hooking up. I guess putting all that stuff down makes me look too cool for school.

[I literally don't even know where to begin with this paragraph. A waiter at Cheddar's once told me "good luck with that" when I told him I was  a theatre major. He later friend requested me on Facebook. He was denied. Let that speak for itself. Also the fact that the phrase "too cool for school" was used in a serious context makes me seriously question this. Like I feel as if this could be a parody of itself. ]

Making Myself Look Busy

Sometimes when I text a girl that I can't meet her because of "cool social engagement A, B, or C," I'm doing so lying in bed in boxers watching Lifeteime movies before passing out. It's all about creating the image. If you use this tactic, remember not to leave a Facebook status trail saying that you're actually staying in and watching bad movies.

[There is a fine line between fibbing about plans because you need alone time and faking "cool social engagements" to make yourself appear like you are popular. Also- the "Lifeteime" typo is in the original article...haha ]

 

Sharing Occasional Deep Thoughts - AKA The Starving Artist

The occasional deep/tortured thought makes me look so distant and emotionally unavailable. Who doesn't want to try to solve that riddle?

[Um...I don't have time to solve your "occasional deep thoughts." Nor do I have the time to listen to you ask about the meaning of life while holding a straight razor dangerously close to your wrists in an attempt to seem "tortured." Plus I'm already a starving artist myself. I need an emotionally stable guy!]

Limiting My Attempts

After she's blown enough chances, I move on. It makes it look like I've got more going on.

I wish I didn't have to fake aloofness. It's part of the game. It's immature to employ these games, but it's also immature for men and women to be attracted to aloof people.

Shouldn't it be as simple as trying to spend time with someone you like, showing that you're available for them because they are special? I've been burned too many times doing this-perhaps it's boring because I'm "too easy".

Or maybe I'm supposed to be aloof until we are dating/committed- at which point I'll start getting in trouble for being too aloof.

Do you find it more attractive when a guy is aloof, and what do you think of my tactics above? Do you try to act aloof with guys? Why do you think aloofness is attractive-is it the thrill of the chase, or the mystery and their independent appearance?

[How about this. Don't act aloof on purpose. If you like me- I want to know. Don't purposefully send mixed signals. We are not in fourth grade anymore and it's not attractive. Even if it seems to be working a girl will get fed up with it. Trust me! So Guys: Please don't take this nitwit's advice. It's annoying. Thanks!]

Cleansing.

You know when you have a complete reality check? I totally had one the other day. And it was about my weight. Before you go all cray cray on me just hear me out. I was trying on a dress that I wanted to wear for Christmas Eve events today, and it was pretty darn tight and hard to zip up. So hard, in fact, that the zipper completely broke and it ripped my dress. A pretty distressing moment to say the least! And lately I've just felt so...puffed up I guess you could say. It's like I don't even enjoy getting dressed in the morning because of the way my clothes have been fitting me. Which is unfortunate because if you know me, you know how much I love clothes! It's just becoming like an annoying task more than anything and I just want to stay in my PJs as long as possible.

I'm just SICK of feeling this way.I've absolutely had it and decided that I want to cleanse my body and start anew.

So I have decided to do the Master Cleanse starting on December the 27th. (That allots for 2 days of Christmas leftovers/cookie eating!)

What is the Master Cleanse? Also known as the "lemonade diet," it's a cleanse where you basically only drink a concoction made out of fresh lemons, purified water, cayenne pepper, and grade B maple syrup. You also supplement it with herbal teas and laxative teas. It sounds bizarre, but a LOT of people have gone on the cleanse and had wonderful results. You can lose alot of weight fast, obviously- but what people don't realize is that it isn't really starving yourself- as this lemonade concoction does have calories that can sustain your body. One girl did the master cleanse for 40 days and she had super results from it. The main reason that I want to do it is not to lose weight necessarily- but to use it as a catalyst to change my eating habits. Most of the people that are successful with the cleanse drastically change their eating habits and start eating healthier again, mostly raw vegan which I have dabbled with in the past as well but lately have not so much been doing. So, these people have lost a good amount of weight on the cleanse and have actually kept it off by changing their eating habits.

I just need a good kick in the butt so I think that now being home for Christmas break before I go back into the harsh grind again would be a great opportunity to try something like this  so that when I return back to Columbus I will be even more motivated to stay very healthy and get back on track. The main reason I want to lose some weight is for my career. As you know I'm going into acting/modeling, and while I am by no means considering myself overweight- I definitely have some toning and weight loss to do! So this cleanse will kind of help to jumpstart me into a better lifestyle. (Not that I'm necessarily unhealthy right now- I eat pretty healthy meals- although lately I've been using that as an excuse to pig out on things such as margaritas, cookies, frozen yogurt, etc...and that adds up!)

Thankfully, most of you guys that are around me won't have to deal with how grumpy I inevitably will be the first few days of this cleanse and I will be fresh for when school starts which is nice.

I'm super excited because I just really think this is going to be what I need to get me started back into a wonderfully healthy lifestyle again! I'm just sick of making excuses for myself and ready to kick it into high-gear.

I'm planning on documenting my cleanse through Youtube videos which I may post here so you can see a Before/After as well as my thoughts while I'm on the cleanse so keep yourself posted.

Also- before you call me certifiable insane- just do a little bit of research on the cleanse. Just look on Youtube for some testimonials and Before/Afters!

If you are interested in the cleanse yourself, visit this website here and find out more information

On December 27th the cleanse starts! Stay tuned!

AuditionBooth!

So I just joined this site, AuditionBooth- where you can audition for things via webcam as well as upload a general "audition." Wanna check it out? Go here! I sing towards the end of it. :) Go "like" it!

No explanation necessary. Just take a second to drool. You're welcome.

Officially finished!

Today is the LAST official day of the semester. I finished my last 2 exams, and now it's Christmas break officially! It's weird to think that I just finished my last fall semester in my life essentially. But it's exciting too! :) With everyone just having graduated it is really causing me to prepare mentally for it myself. It's just going to be such a magical moment to get my degree and to be a college graduate! However, I do have some hurdles to jump first, but I'll get through them.
I think I figured out my post-graduation plan though. I think I definitely am going to move to Atlanta. Ideally, directly from my Columbus apartment. (Sorry Augusta...it's not that I don't like you..but...wait actually I really just don't like you!) There is absolutely no reason for me to be in a place where I can't further continue my career in any way. So I'm going to be looking for reasonably priced Atlanta apartments and move in and preferably already have a "real person" job lined up so I can be financially secure while I audition and find agents and what not.

Lately I've gotten some really cool modeling opportunities such as modeling for a local Atlanta designer named Marian Collier- she has some really great stuff and it was alot of fun to be a part of a fashion show situation.
I met some nice contacts there and from a photographer that was covering the event there, now I'll be doing a photoshoot at Compound in Atlanta for a different designer that will be published in Shooterfoto magazine. It's a small publication targeted to models/photogs/designers/etc. but it is still pretty cool to be published in something! And it should be alot of fun. Apparently Compound is this club where celebrities have their birthday parties at and stuff like that. Fancy! So anyways we will see how that goes. The shoot is on Saturday so I decided to stay in Columbus until then so I can save on gas, and also I have 2 photoshoots with Columbus photographers this week as well. I think it will be nice to have a little "me"-vacation before Christmas break as well if that makes sense.

 But yeah other than that it's been somewhat of a cavalcade of partying these past couple weeks. Me and Robin had our birthday party shindig at Kyle's which went pretty well- here are a couple "paparazzi" shots before the party actually started:

So many other people have had parties and Christmas shindigs and what nots as well. It's been alot of fun to socialize, get dressed up and just generally enjoy the holidays :)